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The Invisible Backpack: Noticing the Emotional Weight You Carry
We all carry an "invisible backpack"—the unseen emotional weight of expectations, comparison, inherited burdens, and exhaustion. Author and therapist Jen Chan reflects on how these hidden loads—whether they are one-word answers from a child or the silent pressure felt as a woman and second-generation Chinese Canadian navigating the corporate world—can impact our daily lives. This post explores the common things we hold onto that may not even be ours and introduces therapy as

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Dec 22, 2025


How to Set Boundaries and Find Peace: Lessons from Nedra Glover Tawwab
If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no, overwhelmed by others’ needs, or unsure how to communicate your limits, this book is essential reading. And in therapy, boundary work often becomes a cornerstone of healing — because peace begins when you stop
abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable.

Your Story Counselling
Dec 15, 2025


How to Know If It’s Time for Couples Therapy (Even If Things Don’t Feel ‘That Bad’)
Relationships don’t need to be on the brink of disaster for couples therapy to be helpful. Often, it’s the subtle shifts in communication, connection, and emotional intimacy that signal it’s time to pause and reflect. Recognizing these early signs can prevent resentment, build stronger bonds, and help partners navigate challenges before they escalate.

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Nov 24, 2025


Breaking the Cycle: Healing Intergenerational Trauma in Immigrant Asian Families
Many individuals from Immigrant Asian family systems carry the weight of emotional patterns and traumas that span generations. This article explores what intergenerational trauma looks like, why you may feel guilt or confusion toward caregiving parents, and how therapy can be a powerful tool for healing.
We highlight three foundational books—It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? by Karyl McBride, and Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Pa

Your Story Counselling
Nov 17, 2025


Healing from Generational Trauma: Coming out from the shadows of your Family of Origin
We all carry the imprint of our families of origin.
It shapes how we express emotions, how we cope with stress, what we expect from intimacy, and even often without realizing, how we show up with our children.

Your Story Counselling
Nov 3, 2025


Introducing Affordable Therapy York Region: Making Mental Health Support Accessible to All
At Your Story Counselling, we believe that everyone deserves access to high-quality, compassionate mental health care—regardless of their financial situation. Over the years, one of the most common challenges we’ve heard from individuals and families is the difficulty of finding therapy that is both affordable and accessible.

Your Story Counselling
Oct 6, 2025


How to Find Affordable, Culturally Competent Therapy in Ontario and York Region
Accessing therapy that is both affordable and culturally sensitive can be challenging. This article explores options for low-cost therapy in Ontario and York Region, including directories like Healing in Colour, Althea Therapy, Open Path, and Affordable Therapy York Region. Learn tips for selecting a therapist, understanding supervision for student therapists, and questions to ask during consultations. Whether you’re seeking support for anxiety, depression, or trauma, cultura

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Sep 23, 2025


Spotting Communication Red Flags in Relationships — A Guide Inspired by Gottman’s Research
Poor communication is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy. In this article, we explore the key "red flags" in communication, based on renowned psychologist Dr. John Gottman’s research, including the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. We’ll also share how couples therapy can help address these patterns and build stronger, healthier relationships. If you’re seeking couples therapy in Markham or Vaughan, our team at Your Story Counselling is here to help.

Your Story Counselling
Aug 18, 2025


What Is Attachment Theory & Therapy? Understanding Your Emotional Bonds and How Healing Happens
Attachment theory explains how our early relationships shape the way we connect with others as adults. Whether you struggle with trust, intimacy, or emotional regulation, understanding your attachment style can offer powerful insights. Therapy focused on attachment helps heal relational wounds and build healthier connections. At Your Story Counselling, we offer compassionate, trauma-informed therapy to support your unique attachment journey.

Your Story Counselling
Jul 28, 2025


Your Story Counselling Recognized Nationally for Excellence in Inclusive Mental Health Care
Your Story Counselling, a trauma-informed and culturally responsive psychotherapy clinic serving York Region and beyond, has been recognized on the national stage. Named a finalist in the 2024 RBC Canadian Women Entrepreneur Awards under the Micro-Business category, the clinic’s work in building accessible, affirming, and anti-oppressive mental health care is gaining long-overdue recognition. Learn how Your Story Counselling is changing how therapy is delivered—one story at a

Your Story Counselling
Jul 21, 2025


The Three Types of Sex: Understanding Intimacy, Connection, & Pleasure
Sex isn’t just about physical connection—with our bodies, partners, or identity, it's layered. This updated guide explores three types of sex—relational, passionate, and solo/experiential—to help you understand your own needs and patterns. Learn how to foster intimacy, keep excitement alive, and feel good in your own skin. Therapy-trained insights included.

Your Story Counselling
Jul 9, 2025


How to Find LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapists in York Region
Finding an LGBTQ+ affirming therapist in York Region is essential for members of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community seeking mental health care that is safe, inclusive, and culturally competent. This guide highlights how to find affirming clinicians, the values of Your Story Counselling’s anti-oppressive stance, and where to find community support through organizations like Rainbow Health Ontario, ACAS, AQUA, and Pflag York Region.

Your Story Counselling
Jul 7, 2025


ADHD in Relationships: When a Third Partner Is Invisible—but Powerful
When you're in a relationship, you're not just navigating the needs, emotions, and communication styles of two people—sometimes, there's a third invisible influence in the mix: ADHD.
Whether diagnosed or not, ADHD can play a powerful and often misunderstood role in intimate relationships. And when one or both partners are affected, it can feel like ADHD has pulled up a chair at the table, making itself part of every conversation, conflict, and connection.

Your Story Counselling
May 19, 2025


Conflict-Free Holidays: How to manage Family Dynamics with Grace
Navigate holiday stress with grace! Learn tips to manage family dynamics, set boundaries, and create meaningful connections this season.

Your Story Counselling
Dec 12, 2024


Heal Your Holiday Connections: How CBT and Attachment Theory Can Transform Your Relationships
Discover how CBT and attachment theory can deepen your relationships this holiday season. Build trust, heal bonds, and connect meaningfully.

Your Story Counselling
Dec 4, 2024


How to Improve your relationship: Understanding through Attachment Styles
Relationships are central to our well-being, but they can also be one of the most challenging aspects of our lives. Have you ever...

Your Story Counselling
Nov 19, 2024


Moving in: How to grow intimacy when living together
"Moving in? Keep the spark alive by communicating openly, balancing personal space, and adding romance to daily routines for a strong bond."

Your Story Counselling
Nov 13, 2024


How to Build a Better Relationship with your Immigrant Parents
Whether you are a student, young adult, or starting your own family, here are some tips to help you build stronger, healthier relationships

Your Story Counselling
Aug 6, 2024


Beyond Pride Month: Continuing the Legacy of LGBTQ2+ Celebration and Support
As June and Pride Month come to a close, it's essential to remember that celebrating and embracing the LGBTQ2+ community should extend far

Your Story Counselling
Jul 2, 2024


How to Find a Therapist: Your First-Time Guide
Feeling the need to talk to someone? Here's how to get started with therapy in Ontario.

Your Story Counselling
Jun 7, 2024
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