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Many millennial Asian women — know this feeling: no matter how much you accomplish, it never feels like enough. From school achievements, career milestones, family expectations, to community reputation, the pressure to succeed can be relentless. While external accolades may pile up, internally, you may feel:

We all carry an "invisible backpack"—the unseen emotional weight of expectations, comparison, inherited burdens, and exhaustion. Author and therapist Jen Chan reflects on how these hidden loads—whether they are one-word answers from a child or the silent pressure felt as a woman and second-generation Chinese Canadian navigating the corporate world—can impact our daily lives. This post explores the common things we hold onto that may not even be ours and introduces therapy as

If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no, overwhelmed by others’ needs, or unsure how to communicate your limits, this book is essential reading. And in therapy, boundary work often becomes a cornerstone of healing — because peace begins when you stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable.