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“I don’t know if I can do this anymore.” It is one of the heaviest sentences a person can say. Usually, by the time a couple reaches this point, they are in what we call a "Mixed-Agenda" state. One partner is "leaning out"—ready to end the relationship but perhaps feeling guilty or uncertain. The other partner is "leaning in"—desperate to save the marriage and willing to do whatever it takes.

When you're looking for a therapist, you’ll see the phrase "Trauma-Informed" everywhere. But what does it actually mean for your sessions? Does it just mean your therapist knows about trauma, or is it something deeper?

Have you ever felt a tightness in your chest the moment you walked into a specific room? Or noticed your shoulders hiking up toward your ears during a stressful conversation, even when you’re trying to stay calm?

We spend most of our lives performing. At work, we’re the "competent professional." At home, we’re the "stable partner" or the "dutiful child." We’re constantly editing our thoughts, filtering our feelings, and checking our masks in the mirror to make sure we’re playing the part correctly. It’s exhausting.